If you grew up in the ruins of insecure attachment with unavailable, intrusive, or abusive touch, then to survive, you continue to remain in small spaces; not allow others to reach you; resistant to any sort of connection, touch, or relationship that requires you to come out of your comfort zone. You continually run from relationships into small, tight spaces asking the people you love the most, “If I hide, will you come find me?” You think it’s comfortable there, but really, it’s not; it’s cramped, small, and lonely. But since it’s the only space you’ve ever known, you cling to it.
Prayer
For the Days When You Long to be Heard
If you were not securely attached to your primary caretaker as a child and have not actively worked on earned secure attachment to God as an adult, then walking securely in your relationships with God, your spouse, children, friends, or any other significant relationship in your life will be extremely difficult. But healing is possible. Restoration is possible. We just have to cry out, to trust, and to obey a God who loves us more than we could ever understand.
Easter People: How We Feel Safe in a Suffering World
While we think being safe means freedom from all sickness and suffering, in the big scheme of things, being “safe” means we will live forever with Christ.
Moving From Lament to Praise
Instead of ignoring all our emotions or stuffing them inside while trying to smear a veneer of praise on the surface, we need to try to let them all come up and out. The past will eventually pop up in the present if it isn’t dealt with. Instead of suppressing our emotions, we must learn to pay attention to them, so we can trace our anxious, angry, hurtful, sinful reactions back to their source and give them to God instead of stuffing them deeper inside.
Getting Honest with God
As I emerge from careful goal setting and planning in January and head into February, sometimes the minutes of my days can feel more like the scattered pieces of a jigsaw puzzle than orderly procession of events.
Chosen
As I emerge from careful goal setting and planning in January and head into February, sometimes the minutes of my days can feel more like the scattered pieces of a jigsaw puzzle than orderly procession of events.
Scattered Schedule, Faithful God.
As I emerge from careful goal setting and planning in January and head into February, sometimes the minutes of my days can feel more like the scattered pieces of a jigsaw puzzle than orderly procession of events.
The Tools of Transformation
When you learn to hear your story through a new narrative, you can move toward becoming the person of God who is confident in his or her identity as God’s child and lives out of that. You can begin to believe you have a good Father. When you make these moves, ruins are rebuilt, identities are shed, and the kingdom of God moves forth on the earth with the power to rebuild the ancient ruins and heal.
New Beginnings, Strong Foundation
I do not know the structure of your scaffolding to help you make the most of your days, but I know who does. If you take the time to be alone and see what your soul wears, see what you need to do to keep walking in the desert places, He will show you. Secure scaffolding provides a safe place for good work and healing to begin.
Our Prince of Peace
He doesn’t want your perfect house, or your perfect meals, or your perfect party, or your perfect Christmas card, or even your perfect family. He wants your heart. And as you give it to Him, He will give you Himself and help you to give His peaceful presence to others throughout Christmas.